One of my friends commented on one of my prev posts saying things all fall in place with patience, love and God's Grace. That no doubt is true and i totally believe in that...but there are alot more of things that it takes to set things right...be it in a relationship or in work or in anything that matters! :)
Tolerance:The dictionary describes Tolerance as The act or capacity of enduring. Thats true...Endurance...but how much endurance is the "Limit"? whatever i am wondering might sound weird to many of you but i really cant find an answer to this!! When we hear of Tolerance the first thing that comes to mind is, some kind of injustice happening to someone, some kind of suffering, pain etc etc! What i am trying to say here is that whenever we talk about Tolerance we always, atleast mostly associate it with some kind of negative things! But thats not actually what i am thinking, i am not talking about Tolerance in some painful situation, rather i am thinking of tolerance in every aspect of life...in everything that matters in our daily nitty gritty!
Picture this scenario...you have a dear friend, whom you love and respect alot. no one's perfect and you know certain flaws in your friend as well. While you dont mind some of the flaws/habits, you really are stern about some others...you want your friend to realise that those bad habits will not prove good for him/her in the long run. Your friend agrees on giving up the bad things and transforming himself/herself cuz he/she cares for you as much as you do. You start having a even closer friendship with your friend and he/she becomes an essential part of your life cuz there was sacrifice and transformation involved. You are happy with your friend but suddenly one day you realise all this while your friend has been lying to you. He/She never left those bad habits but just hid it from you! Now this friend could have done that for two reasons...One: He/She dint want to lose friendship with you becuz of some flaw within him/her self. Two: This friend was scared of hurting you by letting you know that he/she was unable to get rid of the bad habits! Whatever be the reason, in my dictionary of life something thats wrong is NOT right, no matter what. I mean if the friend really was a true friend, he/she would have left his/her bad habits for the sake of your friendship, no matter wshat cuz your friendship should have been more important (than any stupid habit) for him/her. And moreover if your friend is scared enough to not let his/her true self be visible to you, then it just will not be true friendship! For me a FRIEND is someone who knows all your flaws and still loves you...definitely tries to correct your flaws cuz if a friend will not correct you then who else will? Now picturing such a scenario...should you have been tolerable enough to let go or should you have given up on your friend? Its not easy to let go of relationships so easily in life...Moreover you have loved this friend so much and made him/her a part of your life...So you decide to give this friend another chance...and he/she proves you wrong not once or twice but numerous times...whenever you gave him/her a chance...just couldnt get rid of the bad habits even for your sake! And now you sit and think...should i be more tolerant to forgive and forget? This is someone whom you trusted more than your own blood...and shared a part of yourself with...and here you sit being hurt so deeply. Should you be more tolerant? How much tolerance is tolerable?
Picture another scenario...you are a super talented person and are pursuing a goal for the past many years. Now you are on the verge of achieving your goal when suddenly something goes wrong. The most important instrument required for achieving your goal stops working! Moreover the authority who is supposed to sign off your achievement stops supporting you. You know that you have to achieve your goal before its too late. You are determined on achieving your goal and you make all the efforts to set things right. You feel even if you dont have anyone's support you still can do wonders with hard work and you will succeed...well that is what i remember was taught to us way back in school! So you work harder than what your calibre allows you to and make everything work right for achieving your goal. You finish almost major part of your work in lesser time and approach your superior authority to get a sign off. Your authority simply doesnt appreciate your efforts rather suggests some changes...which he suggests very simply...but will take almost double the effort than what you already did. You get vexed up and try contacting friends for some moral support. Obviously what you are going thru is something, even if others understand they cannot go thru for you! So feeling defeated you still try to hold on. You again strengthen up your determination and work as hard as can be defined in the books. And when you are approaching the deadline, you realise things arent working the way they are supposed to. And moreover you still have loads more to achieve before you can finally succeed! Your family by now believes you have spent way too much time and effort on achieving your goal and are just simply wasting time. You know how passionate you are about achieving your goal, but you dont have mental or physical strength anymore. It is so easy to give up! This has been the only goal you have been trying to achieve for past many years...you have given even your soul into it...you have worked harder than what you could have...and whatevers going wrong is not something that you can help! It is so easy to wrap it up and just throw it away...and just walk away...and still so much more difficult! Should you be more tolerant? Should you be more stronger? How much strength is tolerable?
Sometimes...i feel some situations just dont fit into a category where principles can be applied...and may be its better to let go of such things and stop analysing them...Life always goes on...and all we have to decide is whether the situation or the person is more important in our lives...and when we decide that i guess the significance of "Tolerance" vanishes!!
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